Have you ever had an idea that left you feeling totally enthusiastic and energetic about life? You feel like your head is up in the clouds, you are dreaming of what your life could look like if you just got up and went for it? You bounce around all over the place, smiling like a bobbly head idiot because you have found this sense of purpose and excitement for life? Of course you have! If you have been human for at least 5 minutes you have felt this feeling before. Then, here she comes (and not singing do wop diddy diddy diddy dum diddy do). That big ol' gloom and doom. Most likely this Bitch that is showing up just in time to drag you down, is known as Fear or Ego. This is the part of us that is acting like a total wanker. Our Ego and Fear acts out and shows up in our lives when we have limiting beliefs of what we can achieve and do. We are human and no matter how much we commit to developing a strong mental fortitude and no matter how many tools we can store in our personal development tool shed, there are going to be circumstances, obstacles and people that will try to de-rail your progression. Don't get sidetracked by people who aren't even on your track!
For some people the journey of progression and making a decision to take BOLD and courageous action to move toward that "tug" of doing something GREAT, takes years. BTW, You should never "arrive". If you can sit back and think 'I've arrived. I'm perfect. I have learned all life's lessons' that is your weenie of an Ego speaking and you clearly have more to learn.
So you are skipping along, happier than a pig in poop because you have embarked on this ginormous beautiful journey and have transformed into the beautiful butterfly (as you should, self love and conceit are two totally different beasts) and You are ready to confidently move in the direction of your dreams. Maybe You have even taken it one step further and taken that leap of faith and started what You've always wanted! Hooray, way to go you big ol' courageous butterfly you! There you are all happy as can be, doing your thang and all of a sudden someone or something wants to take a big dump in your lucky charms.
Kacey Musgraves who is a total musical heaven send, sings the heck out of this in her song Biscuits.
Why? I'll tell you why. Watching someone else go for it, and playing full on and full out, can be extremely devastating to someone who has spent a lifetime of telling themselves it can't be done or a story of why THEY can't do it. It has nothing to do with you. Your Ego is making it about you. In all actuality it's THEIR Ego that is getting in the way for them, and therefore they need to make it known that if they couldn't do it, then how dare you do it. Actually, how dare you NOT do it? Once in a while you will get caught up in this BS, after-all we can't control what others choose to do or say. We can only choose what we will accept as our truth and what we will learn from these situations. This happened to me recently, someone tried to bring me down and make me feel bad about my journey. Back to the toolshed I go, to pull out all the best tools to deal with this lesson in true Bold & Brassy fashion. Which means, taking responsibility for my part in the BS, deciding how I will learn from it and choosing not to participate in the crap slinging party. People throw rocks at things that shine, but guess what shine on my friends because there are PLENTY of people out there who WILL support you and encourage you and cheer you on, so focus on those keepers. REPEAT: I will not get sidetracked or discouraged by people who aren't on my tracks. We don't know about the rocks in other people shoes so always give the benefit of the doubt, after-all we have all had a less than top shelf moment. Just keep doing you to the best of your ability. It's not about perfection, it's about progression.
The fabulous Marianne Williamson (total genius, BTW) says it best;
"Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do, and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
This is so true. Some people spend a lifetime trying to fully understand and authentically appreciate that when a person shines, it's not outshining you. When a person succeeds, they are not stealing success from you. There is more than enough room in this big ol' world for us all to play full out and go for it. Do you think that a flower focusses on competing with other flowers in the garden? Absolutely not. It simply stays put and blooms. Girls compete. Women Empower.
Live out loud.